Yesterday, I was chatting with one of my friend. We had a long chat, and while chatting I asked her why is she still single. To my surprise she said that no one had proposed her till date. May be she lied, but from her chat I could make out that many girls don’t want to propose boys first, instead they want boys to propose them.
For the same question one girl gives answer of same question by giving two reasons, the very first is, girls do not propose at first because they have a mind set that its only boy's work to propose at first. Second reason is they are scared of hearing 'NO' from boys for their proposal which makes them go through hell (After Effects) for many days and on other hand if girl refuses boy's proposal then it doesn't affect boys that much.
I was thinking for a while is that right thing to do? And here I am with my own views on above question.
Few girls do share their feelings and approach boy, but many don’t. It is believe that boys need to be stronger, courageous and propose a girl, instead of girls doing that. The shy nature of girls, their self respect, and the fear of rejection make them to lack behind boys in loving someone. Social structure and society superstitions too stop them from taking such step.
If girls do propose any boys, it becomes a topic to discuss which makes them feel cheap to others; this too prevents them from taking such step. Most importantly, girls want boys to share their feelings and make them feel special. It is good that girls need to be more special, and they should maintain their self respect.
Though many might debate that girls and boys are of no difference, I feel that on an average boys are more dominating, capable, courageous, stronger and ahead in many things. It is believed in earlier olden days that men have to take step ahead of women and be superior. Now, with the course of time this has become the permanent characteristics of society. So, still boys have a choice to propose girls they love, and share their feelings.
Girls normally don’t share their feelings; hence they let their feelings subside within themselves. They are not exercising their rights and letting go away with their choice. It would only make them lose their choice, and they may land up with someone whom they don’t wish to stay forever.
Presently, where both girls and boys have an equal opportunity; don’t let your choice go away with fear of social acceptance. Feel free to express yourself. But, know what you should be doing, and do that at right time to a right person.
But, if girls want boys to take initiative in sharing their feelings, and if boy accepts it then it has become a natural understanding, and can be considered as a part of mannerism. Let’s accept it then if you feel it is worth accepting.
So, Here’s the link “10 Reasons Why Girls Should Propose a Guy”
P.S. :- Don’t presume that I am waiting for someone to approach and propose me. Neither I am trying to influence anyone.